Hello,
I am new to this forum and still quite new to Paganism in general.
Before you go further, the advice I'm seeking is on a relationship with someone who is not Pagan.
Let me explain,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now and it is a serious relationship. After we had been together a while, he finally admits to being very religious. He is very Christian. But not just any Christian, his church is Seventh Day Adventist which is a particular church that is hell-bent on wiping all pagan roots out of Christian tradition. You can see where this might be a problem. I started my research into Paganism after we had started dating so I told him about it. I have even been educating him on it and my personal beliefs. He is currently conflicted because he wants to stay loyal to his family and to his church, but he also loves me very much and fully agrees that Paganism is the right path for me.
In hypothetical talks of our future, I have promised I would go to church with him and that he is invited to my coven meetings. I even agreed that future hypothetical children could go to church until a certain age where they could make their own choice. I have no real issue with his beliefs, we have discussed it and they surprisingly do not interfere.
Should it come down to it, I'm afraid he may ask that I practice in secret. That I keep it hidden. Even from hypothetical future children. I feel like I've already compromised a lot. What should I do if he asks me to keep it a secret? Or to give it up altogether? And should I encourage him to sit in on coven meetings so he can learn more about it?
As a side note, he is not as strict as the old farts in his church.
As I'm still new to this, I'm not sure if I should find another path we both agree on or try to stick with it.
I am new to this forum and still quite new to Paganism in general.
Before you go further, the advice I'm seeking is on a relationship with someone who is not Pagan.
Let me explain,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now and it is a serious relationship. After we had been together a while, he finally admits to being very religious. He is very Christian. But not just any Christian, his church is Seventh Day Adventist which is a particular church that is hell-bent on wiping all pagan roots out of Christian tradition. You can see where this might be a problem. I started my research into Paganism after we had started dating so I told him about it. I have even been educating him on it and my personal beliefs. He is currently conflicted because he wants to stay loyal to his family and to his church, but he also loves me very much and fully agrees that Paganism is the right path for me.
In hypothetical talks of our future, I have promised I would go to church with him and that he is invited to my coven meetings. I even agreed that future hypothetical children could go to church until a certain age where they could make their own choice. I have no real issue with his beliefs, we have discussed it and they surprisingly do not interfere.
Should it come down to it, I'm afraid he may ask that I practice in secret. That I keep it hidden. Even from hypothetical future children. I feel like I've already compromised a lot. What should I do if he asks me to keep it a secret? Or to give it up altogether? And should I encourage him to sit in on coven meetings so he can learn more about it?
As a side note, he is not as strict as the old farts in his church.
As I'm still new to this, I'm not sure if I should find another path we both agree on or try to stick with it.
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