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    Does the distinction matter?

    From the AM hackers:


    Does it matter?

    Is it the intent or the action that defines who we are?


    (by the way, I have about a dozen debate ideas just off this hack)
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    #2
    Re: Does the distinction matter?

    Depends.

    Depends on how serious the intent was - some people just want to know "what if."

    Depends on whether the chance occured - was it turned down?

    Depends on whether it was a harmless fantasy, or a real attempt...
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      #3
      Re: Does the distinction matter?

      It all depends upon who you talk to. Religiously, if I remember correctly, Christians believe that it is the thought and not necessarily the action that is the sin. Also, my ex would always say that I was cheating on her "emotionally" if I spent a large amount of time talking to women other than her.

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        #4
        Re: Does the distinction matter?

        Signing up with an affair site is an action. It may not be equivalent to having an affair but it still an action and if that action is in furtherance of an end goal including an affair well that still amounts to a massive breach of trust in most marriages. Thought alone is one thing but once an action in furtherance of that thought comes into play, you're no longer just thinking about it.
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          #5
          Re: Does the distinction matter?

          I'm going to suggest that people, even in a marriage, need a private space... which will include fantasy.

          I stick with "it depends," although I also realize that there is a very fuzzy edge between one intent and another, and that fuzzy edge can be further blurred, and that changes in intent can be self-justified in oh-so-many self-serving ways.

          Honestly, history judges. Can't say anything for sure in advance...
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            #6
            Re: Does the distinction matter?

            That the site flourished online says something in itself...as they say,if there is no market the company has no business..It seems a lot of people are not completely monogamous in their relationships,even when they publicly boast of religious devotion to marriage over and over,and strike out at others who are involved in alternative Marriages.
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              #7
              Re: Does the distinction matter?

              Every relationship has different boundaries, so there are some who'd think it was fine and some who wouldn't. I'd fall more into the Lorena Bobbitt area.
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                #8
                Re: Does the distinction matter?

                Put down that paring knife Hawk...it is way sharp,and many guys are not(sharp that is)
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                  #9
                  Re: Does the distinction matter?

                  I intended to poison my husband by looking up ways to feed him poison and joining a 'how to kill your husband' website. I even paid for it (because you have to PAY a site like Ashley Madison to join) But I didn't actually kill him.

                  He shouldn't be upset.


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                    #10
                    Re: Does the distinction matter?

                    Reminds self that The Duce "Might" be a black widow...hmmm
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                      #11
                      Re: Does the distinction matter?

                      Even if they never met a single person, the intent was to cheat on me. Which tells me that my partner is unhappy, but not telling me this. It tells me that they are more willing to risk out relationship than discussing whatever the issues is with me. You have the intent to do something that would make me very hurt. The intention alone is enough.
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