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    Re: Changing relationship. Is he an alcoholic?

    There's nothing I can recommend outside of you need to have a heart to heart with him. We're strangers that are making assumptive suggestions based solely on what you're telling us.

    I have an in-law that went to school to become a brewmaster, I've observed first hand that people who enjoy brewing their own beer and indulge in 1-2 a night and maybe more on weekends does not mean they are alcoholics. They are enjoying the fruits of their labor. It's the behaviour that comes with it that would illude to whether alcoholism is an issue.
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    Re: Changing relationship. Is he an alcoholic?

    Quote Originally Posted by Juniper View Post
    There's nothing I can recommend outside of you need to have a heart to heart with him. We're strangers that are making assumptive suggestions based solely on what you're telling us.

    I have an in-law that went to school to become a brewmaster, I've observed first hand that people who enjoy brewing their own beer and indulge in 1-2 a night and maybe more on weekends does not mean they are alcoholics. They are enjoying the fruits of their labor. It's the behaviour that comes with it that would illude to whether alcoholism is an issue.
    Juniper right. I think the best way is to talk to him.

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    Re: Changing relationship. Is he an alcoholic?

    Honestly, I think you should read this: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/se...se-weight.html

    and this: https://edition.cnn.com/2016/08/24/h...lth/index.html

    and this: https://www.shape.com/weight-loss/ti...ed-lose-weight

    and this: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl...t-their-weight

    for some points of consideration. It sounds to me, given the information here, that the issue is less about him drinking and more about you not liking his weight gain. Now, there are lots of things that actually contribute to weight gain, beyond calories in and calories out, and tbh, none of us know him, or where you are in your relationship, of his mental health status, stress factors, etc., or all of the factors that are at work here....

    ...but I do know that not considering all of these things before you figure out what to say and how to say it has a high potential to ruin not only your relationship but potentially harm him as well.
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