This may turn into a long post so bear with me please.
I have two baby brothers, one who is 6 and one who is 9. The nine year old is the problem. He has become increasingly abusive, angry and violent over the last two years and it is getting to the stage where he is actually hurting me.
Some background on Boo (his pet name):
When my mum and dad split up for 5 years Mum had a couple of boyfriends, one of which is Boo's biological father. Mum and dad got back together when she was pregnant with him and Dad has raised him as his own. He was there at the birth and every day from that point. Boo's biological father stepped back entirely and said that my dad would take better care of Boo. Fair enough.
Boo has only been told he isn't dad's in the last few years, but it hasn't properly clicked for him yet that it means he has ANOTHER DAD somewhere. Mum explained it to him in the most ridiculous way possible. She told him he was like baby Jesus (sigh) because Jesus had two daddys, God and Joseph (sigh again).
The reason mum is so protective and crazy as far as Boo goes is because although his Dad wanted nothing to do with him, his Gran took us to court for custody. We won but mum has forever been over crazy, protective and forgiving of Boo.
Ok, now we have the background story we can get into the nitty gritty. Boo has become increasingly violent over the last few years and it is very well aimed at me. I have never been given the right to chastise Boo in any way and if he does something wrong or says something wrong to me I have no right to do anything about it. This is Mum's rule. The part of the rule that I was unaware of until about a year ago was that if Boo hits me, or hurts me I have no right to restrain him (not hurt him, just stop him hurting me) or tell him off. Apparently I am an adult and should be able to ignore him when he hurts me. I also wasn't informed that he wouldn't get punished for being violent towards me.
He is getting stronger now, and at nine he is up to my chin in height (I'm 5'7, he is a tall 9 year old). It's getting very painful when he hurts me and today was the last straw because out of pure spite because he wasn't getting his way he slammed my hand in the car door. He waited until I was putting the child lock off and slammed it shut. I have a nice bruised and sore hand. A few weeks ago he pushed me into the wall and bruises where the pressure of his hands was on my ribs. Mum told me off for "making a scene in the street" when my hand was caught in the door and then told me to stop being a baby.
It won't take long until he can really REALLY hurt me and I don't know how to deal with this. Dale, my Gran, my Dad everyone has tried to reason with my mum but to no avail. She doesn't treat Conry like this, if he does something wrong he is punished. It's just Boo.
Treating him like this isn't good for him and frankly I am getting really upset about it. Advice please? x
I have two baby brothers, one who is 6 and one who is 9. The nine year old is the problem. He has become increasingly abusive, angry and violent over the last two years and it is getting to the stage where he is actually hurting me.
Some background on Boo (his pet name):
When my mum and dad split up for 5 years Mum had a couple of boyfriends, one of which is Boo's biological father. Mum and dad got back together when she was pregnant with him and Dad has raised him as his own. He was there at the birth and every day from that point. Boo's biological father stepped back entirely and said that my dad would take better care of Boo. Fair enough.
Boo has only been told he isn't dad's in the last few years, but it hasn't properly clicked for him yet that it means he has ANOTHER DAD somewhere. Mum explained it to him in the most ridiculous way possible. She told him he was like baby Jesus (sigh) because Jesus had two daddys, God and Joseph (sigh again).
The reason mum is so protective and crazy as far as Boo goes is because although his Dad wanted nothing to do with him, his Gran took us to court for custody. We won but mum has forever been over crazy, protective and forgiving of Boo.
Ok, now we have the background story we can get into the nitty gritty. Boo has become increasingly violent over the last few years and it is very well aimed at me. I have never been given the right to chastise Boo in any way and if he does something wrong or says something wrong to me I have no right to do anything about it. This is Mum's rule. The part of the rule that I was unaware of until about a year ago was that if Boo hits me, or hurts me I have no right to restrain him (not hurt him, just stop him hurting me) or tell him off. Apparently I am an adult and should be able to ignore him when he hurts me. I also wasn't informed that he wouldn't get punished for being violent towards me.
He is getting stronger now, and at nine he is up to my chin in height (I'm 5'7, he is a tall 9 year old). It's getting very painful when he hurts me and today was the last straw because out of pure spite because he wasn't getting his way he slammed my hand in the car door. He waited until I was putting the child lock off and slammed it shut. I have a nice bruised and sore hand. A few weeks ago he pushed me into the wall and bruises where the pressure of his hands was on my ribs. Mum told me off for "making a scene in the street" when my hand was caught in the door and then told me to stop being a baby.
It won't take long until he can really REALLY hurt me and I don't know how to deal with this. Dale, my Gran, my Dad everyone has tried to reason with my mum but to no avail. She doesn't treat Conry like this, if he does something wrong he is punished. It's just Boo.
Treating him like this isn't good for him and frankly I am getting really upset about it. Advice please? x
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