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    Coming out of the Broom Closet

    What is your story on letting others know you are Pagan? How has it effected you for better or worse? Has it changed your relationships with them? What challenges have you had to overcome?
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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    I actually need some advice in this area. I found Wicca a few years ago and now pretty much everyone knows. I told my friends and now fianc
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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    I know I've told my story previously. I'm one of the rare few that was never in any sort of closet. My family is pretty open.

    However, I never went out and blurted out at a family gathering "I'm a WITCH" because I didn't feel it was necessary. I don't hide who I am and what I believe, but outside of a discussion about religion, I usually don't go blathering on about it either. I never have.

    I think maybe I understand the desire to get it out there; to tell people, but I really never thought my spirituality was up for debate, so I saw no point in discussing it with people who might not be appreciative.

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    I straight up told my brother, mother, and friends. My dad kinda just took context clues. One of my coworkers just asked me about my pentagram necklace today. Other than that, Im not in the broom closet or anything. I never was, I think.

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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    I am overly open if people ask, but I haven't gone out of my way to "come out of the broom closet" with my family. I find no need to hassle them with the blunt "I never believed in your God" kind of conversations. They are not open enough to hear that conversation and I like my life as least complicated as possible.
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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    Sage: don't worry about it, they never asked and it never needed to be stated. If you lie about it its one thing, but like you were being respectful of their beliefs that is a good thing. you don't need to throw your beliefs in peoples faces. Just like how you wish your grandma would stop calling you about saving your soul. You believe your beliefs and they believe theirs. don't feel bad about it. If the topic came up, its then up to you. If it came up, tell her you always kept it quiet around her to respect her beliefs and her household. At that point the ball is in her court to be whatever person she wants to be about it.

    As for me I haven't quite "come out of the broom closet" because I don't feel the need to. I've told people that I know share beliefs, and the one that doesn't share the beliefs with me likes to discuss/debate religions and such. he likes to pick apart religions with historical accuracies. I had once when I was younger asked my mom for a book I had found on "white magic" (yes I was VERY young... probably around 12 when I started.. so I wasn't very knowledgeable) and she responded with a "no! our family doesn't do that sort of thing! put that book back!" which was amazing because she was never a religious person, we never went to church, and religion is never really brought up. so its easy to not talk about it.

    However I am waiting for the in-laws to come down... they say grace at dinner every day and are regular church-goers. last they knew we went to a church around here, before my wife converted away from Christianity... oh this is gonna be fun. lol. I'm actually glad the questions don't come up because I personally don't like explaining myself to people.
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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    when I first converted I had this overwhelming need to "Tell the world" but I think that was the christian still in me lol and I felt bad when people talked religion with me and i had to 'lie' but i have come accross the realization that when someone says 'god' and I respond with 'god' even tho we mean them in different ways I'm not really lieing to them cause i do believe in a god i jsut believe in a goddess to and so i'm not really lieing i'm just note telling them everythign. i dont respond with I'm not christian I'm wiccan. you knwo what I mean?

    and yeah Dufonce I've been thinking about when my mom comes down.... that is certainly going be be fun. but she's pretty oblivious so we shouldnt have a problem... other than grace.....
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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    [quote author=Dufonce link=topic=49.msg745#msg745 date=1286716693]
    ... If it came up, tell her you always kept it quiet around her to respect her beliefs and her household. At that point the ball is in her court to be whatever person she wants to be about it.

    Very valid point. Thanks for that!

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    Good luck with your inlaws.. that could be interesting.. I got blessed with mine. They've been more supportive than my blood! lol
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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    My family and most of my friends know. I don't go out of my way to tell everyone, but I don't hide it either, so over the years those close to me found out one way or another. (One exception, I did bluntly come out and tell my fiance shortly after we first met. I just got out of a horrible relationship where religion was an issue, and thought it'd be better to clear that up sooner rather than later.)
    Most of my family are not Christians - those who are, are open minded - so it was never an issue with the family. To be honest, I got more crap from them for being a pescatarian than a pagan. :P Friends have been another issue... some stuck with me, others cut off contact with me because of it (which hurt, but was for the best I guess). Some friends who were okay with it, well, their families were more of a problem at times, but usually it wasn't a problem - or they never knew. And, as I mentioned earlier, I was also in a relationship where it was a major problem. Majority of people though? Don't have an issue with it.

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    Re: Coming out of the Broom Closet

    I'm still in the broom closet with my grandparents. With my family there was no "coming out"; they figured it out pretty fast. I just wish they'd figure out I'm not Wiccan.
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