Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting.

[youcanever]

I think I am losing it. My ex is becoming an obsession in my mind everyday passes. I was at university for my master degree yesterday, 9 hours classes nonstop. I was fine at first 6 hours and then last 3 hours I just couldn't stop thinking of getting her back no matter what. And I did lots of research and found a website that helps. He said, she would contact me in 7 days and will get back to me, otherwise he would give me my money back. And the amount of money he ask for is not that much.


I have things to make my mind busy. Working 8am to 6pm 5 days a week. Have master degree classes for engineering thursday evenings 7pm-10pm. Also saturdays, I have classes 10am to 7pm. Hitting gym 3-4 times a week. And other times I am constantly studying my lessons to get that degree.


But still, my ex is in my fcking mind. She broke up with me months ago. I got over her but she contacted me every 3-4 months. And couple of weeks ago we made out, had sex, had great 2 days then she got out of my life again. Didn't give a damn about me. I am sure she is flirting with tons of guys and even looking for a new relationship.


I am extremely angry and mad at her. My ego is so low, my self-respect is at the bottom. I am in a self-destructive pattern because my feelings started for her and she ****ing got out of my life without give a **** about me AGAIN !!! I want to use this spell to take her back, and make her love me and want to have intimacy with me. That is what I want.


I read tons of articles about those stuff. People say, don't do it, it backfires, you end up back etc. But as long as I am in self-destructive pattern I don't give a damn about me.


Lastnight after class, I booked a hotel room to meet an escort. But somehow I managed my mind and stood against brain and used willpower and cancelled the escort. Even though I paid for hotel room I feel a lil good about myself to cancelling it. Because I've been with lots of escorts before then I was scared I get some disaese and promised not to do it again after my blood test came clean. So if I did it, I would break that promise.


But, about that ex situation, things doesn't get better. All I am thinking is she is banging other guy when I am working and studying my ass off and enjoying it so much and thinking like "hahahaha, I used OP, he loves me again but I am sucking this dick in my mount and it is sooo good, my new guy is so much better than OP, I will do everything he wants and let him abuse me on bed all night long"


Ah, I feel a lil good now after venting but I will keep writing if things come up to my mind.


I am losing it.

[Aeran]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

Sounds like the best thing you can do is cut her off and move on with your life. Even if a spell worked to get her back, would you really want a woman who's only loyal and caring because of a spell?

[anubisa]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

I agree with Aeran. Plus if you aren't careful it can come back on you if you try to get your ex back. It's better to move on and try to find someone else. You can use a love spell to help find a new love in your life. Just be careful how you use them.

[youcanever]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

Sounds like the best thing you can do is cut her off and move on with your life. Even if a spell worked to get her back, would you really want a woman who's only loyal and caring because of a spell?

This is the second time she dumped me and I totaly lost my self-respect right now. As I said I am in a destructive pattern and I don't care if she loves me because of spell or not. I just want her.

Hope it works. But if not, I gave a promise to myself. I will move on.

[Aeran]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

This is the second time she dumped me and I totaly lost my self-respect right now. As I said I am in a destructive pattern and I don't care if she loves me because of spell or not. I just want her.

Hope it works. But if not, I gave a promise to myself. I will move on.

She obviously doesn't give a crap about you. It sounds like you're just fixated on her physically, which I understand, but there are plenty of attractive women out there. Skip the love spell and the ineveitable ensuing drama, and just go straight ahead to the 'getting over her and moving on' part.

[youcanever]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

She obviously doesn't give a crap about you. It sounds like you're just fixated on her physically, which I understand, but there are plenty of attractive women out there. Skip the love spell and the ineveitable ensuing drama, and just go straight ahead to the 'getting over her and moving on' part.

Is it really that bad decision to give a try to love spell?

Btw, that "doesn't give a crap about you" part hurt me. And made me angrier towards her.

[lightdragon]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

you need a spell to cut her off. also to cut her off with mundane things like not seeing her or when she calls you just hang up or not respond. mainly the latter.

a love or lust spell will not work. actually in this case a lust spell is not needed. as you are still in the possibility of having sex with her. it's more on the lines of casting a spell so you will eat at a McDonalds in an area where there are three to four of them. it's wasting energy ,magic and time.

a love spell is to bring true love to you. you can not make anyone fall in love with you. you can ask for a general love spell to have your true love attracted to you.
what you could do is a glamoury which will create the illusion of love for either you or the girl. but it does't last. at best two years or so. as you can not compel someone to go against their will in an indefinite period. anything longer is mainly because the person was desperate to find love. also these spells to do not create fidelity . as one woman who casted a love spell on a married man. he fell for her and she ended up being the other woman.

[youcanever]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

you need a spell to cut her off. also to cut her off with mundane things like not seeing her or when she calls you just hang up or not respond. mainly the latter.

a love or lust spell will not work. actually in this case a lust spell is not needed. as you are still in the possibility of having sex with her. it's more on the lines of casting a spell so you will eat at a McDonalds in an area where there are three to four of them. it's wasting energy ,magic and time.

a love spell is to bring true love to you. you can not make anyone fall in love with you. you can ask for a general love spell to have your true love attracted to you.
what you could do is a glamoury which will create the illusion of love for either you or the girl. but it does't last. at best two years or so. as you can not compel someone to go against their will in an indefinite period. anything longer is mainly because the person was desperate to find love. also these spells to do not create fidelity . as one woman who casted a love spell on a married man. he fell for her and she ended up being the other woman.

Thanks for the informative mail. But you said a love or lust spell will not work. But also at the end you said you casted a spell on a married men and he fell for you. So it works?

I am confused.

[Aeran]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

Is it really that bad decision to give a try to love spell?

Yes. You can't magically alter someones fundamental nature. Any changes brought about as a result of the spell would be artificial, induced by the pressure of external energies. This is deeply problematic for all sorts of reasons - firstly, it means that any "love" (really desire, attachment), you induce will be fake, a lie, and relationships based on lies don't work very well. It also means that it will likely be temporary, as her mind and body will reject the external influence and try to return to a state of equilibrium, a process which will probably be painful and result in a lot of cognitive dissonance for her, and be chaotic, dramatic and painful for you as you deal with the fallout and the breakdown of the relationship all over again. Finally, it takes you into a very murky area, morally- a lot of people would argue that there's no real difference between using magic to force someone to be attached to/sexually attracted towards someone and physically forcing them via violence, abuse and coercion. Either way, you're robbing them of the ability to utilize their free will and deciding who they have a relationship with.

Btw, that "doesn't give a crap about you" part hurt me. And made me angrier towards her.

Well, the truth does hurt. Now you have to decide whether you want to use that anger to move on, to forget her and become a better person, or whether you want to allow it to drag you back down into mutual misery with this woman.

[Keldorn]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

I read tons of articles about those stuff. People say, don't do it, it backfires, you end up back etc. But as long as I am in self-destructive pattern I don't give a damn about me.

Bullshit. You are paying someone to try and mystically override the free will of another human being because you want a relationship with the target. You may not care about the risks to yourself but this entire plan is all about you and what you want. If you honestly didn't care about yourself then this thread wouldn't exist.

Past that, if your self confidence is so reliant upon a relationship with one specific person that the absence of such a relationship sends you into a tailspin then you need a therapist not a spell.

[youcanever]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

Yes. You can't magically alter someones fundamental nature. Any changes brought about as a result of the spell would be artificial, induced by the pressure of external energies. This is deeply problematic for all sorts of reasons - firstly, it means that any "love" (really desire, attachment), you induce will be fake, a lie, and relationships based on lies don't work very well. It also means that it will likely be temporary, as her mind and body will reject the external influence and try to return to a state of equilibrium, a process which will probably be painful and result in a lot of cognitive dissonance for her, and be chaotic, dramatic and painful for you as you deal with the fallout and the breakdown of the relationship all over again. Finally, it takes you into a very murky area, morally- a lot of people would argue that there's no real difference between using magic to force someone to be attached to/sexually attracted towards someone and physically forcing them via violence, abuse and coercion. Either way, you're robbing them of the ability to utilize their free will and deciding who they have a relationship with.



Well, the truth does hurt. Now you have to decide whether you want to use that anger to move on, to forget her and become a better person, or whether you want to allow it to drag you back down into mutual misery with this woman.

It sucks to want someone and not be wanted by the same person.

When she broke up 9 months ago, I never contacted her but she contacted me every 3-4 months. I was over her. I felt nothing towards her. Slept with couple of girls, made out a lot, go out a lot, hit gym harder, I was great at work. Then she contacted again, we slept together and then my feelings came to surface again.

My last mail to her was very cool to her. Not needy at all. So, she will always remember me as a strong, not desperate guy. That make me feel good.

I should move on.

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Bullshit. You are paying someone to try and mystically override the free will of another human being because you want a relationship with the target. You may not care about the risks to yourself but this entire plan is all about you and what you want. If you honestly didn't care about yourself then this thread wouldn't exist.

Past that, if your self confidence is so reliant upon a relationship with one specific person that the absence of such a relationship sends you into a tailspin then you need a therapist not a spell.

What I meant by "I don't give a damn about me" is that I don't care if she comes to my life, we hook up and she leaves me again. Or if spell backfires. It is okay.

Ofcourse I want what I want.

[Aeran]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

It sucks to want someone and not be wanted by the same person.

When she broke up 9 months ago, I never contacted her but she contacted me every 3-4 months. I was over her. I felt nothing towards her. Slept with couple of girls, made out a lot, go out a lot, hit gym harder, I was great at work. Then she contacted again, we slept together and then my feelings came to surface again.

My last mail to her was very cool to her. Not needy at all. So, she will always remember me as a strong, not desperate guy. That make me feel good.

I should move on.

yes, you should. If she contacts you again, tell her calmly but firmly that you don't want anything more to do with her.

[lightdragon]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

Thanks for the informative mail. But you said a love or lust spell will not work. But also at the end you said you casted a spell on a married men and he fell for you. So it works?

I am confused.

it's not true love. it gives the illusion of love. and it only lasts for a limited period. then the person reacts on to why they fell for you. usually that turns to hatred and/or resentment. as you forced that person to do something against their will.so if you casted this love spell on her it would not stop her from cheating on you. also if she is hooking up and dumping you. it can get pretty messy when the love spell wears off.

also I did not cast this spell. this was a woman who casted it on a married man. and in this case all it did was make that man fall for two women.

[youcanever]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

it's not true love. it gives the illusion of love. and it only lasts for a limited period. then the person reacts on to why they fell for you. usually that turns to hatred and/or resentment. as you forced that person to do something against their will.so if you casted this love spell on her it would not stop her from cheating on you. also if she is hooking up and dumping you. it can get pretty messy when the love spell wears off.

also I did not cast this spell. this was a woman who casted it on a married man. and in this case all it did was make that man fall for two women.

Thanks for the information again. Just curiosity. How can I have more information about these spells? I'm not talking about how to do it but the effects of it on other person. How long does it last? And how does it go? Or maybe stories about people who has done it. ETC.

[thalassa]

Re: Any of you considered love or lust spell to your ex gf? A little hardcore venting

But, about that ex situation, things doesn't get better. All I am thinking is she is banging other guy when I am working and studying my ass off and enjoying it so much and thinking like "hahahaha, I used OP, he loves me again but I am sucking this dick in my mount and it is sooo good, my new guy is so much better than OP, I will do everything he wants and let him abuse me on bed all night long"

Yeah, this is a problem that is all in your head. If she is banging another guy, its because she enjoys banging the other guy. Almost no one gives head out of spite when there are no witnesses....and statistically speaking, I doubt this is an exception.

As for the rest of it, it comes to this:

Is it really that bad decision to give a try to love spell?

Look, I get wanting a hate fuck to get back at some bitch. I get being sad and pathetic over a lost love. I get a relationship that is so fucked up that you aren't sure which of those would be better....but if you actually believe that magic works, over-riding someone's own natural will in order to have sex with them is called attempted rape.

You need to figure something out that doesn't involve her that gets your self respect back.