Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats
Thank you for all of your help!
To explain, yes. We have never lived together previously. We've been dating for roughly a year, and moved in together June 1st.
I'm sorry for not responding sooner-I've been so busy. I called my vet to make an appointment for my youngest to get checked out.
We currently have two litter boxes due to space issues, and also because my other two cats got along famously with a single litter box. I purchased the second specifically for my youngest, but perhaps I should invest in two more.
We are currently making plans and saving up to enclose our rather large patio, so that the cats will be able to go outside and run amok in the sun safely, which will give us more space to add more litter boxes.
My boyfriend is a piercer, and cat hair and dander is really bad for piercings and open wounds in general. While it is not a 100% truly sterile environment, changing clothes before coming to work is probably the best idea for the health of his clients.
He is quite a bit older than me, so perhaps you're right about common methods of cat "training" being seen as acceptable even though they're blatantly incorrect and outdated, but I will not tolerate abuse and I have expressly told him that if he touches my cats in anger again, I'll be leaving.
Both of our names are on the lease, but as far as I'm concerned, even if I had moved into his place, it is now officially a shared space, and thus, I think we should each have an equal opinion.
I'm going to try getting more litter boxes and seeing if the vet turns anything up for my youngest. We do currently use lidded boxes because my oldest sometimes doesn't squat when he wees, so it goes over the side if it's not enclosed (he's a very tall main coon). Perhaps I can even find a bigger box, or use one of those plastic tubs with the lid on it when we can secure the patio for them.
Thanks again for all of your help. The youngest does bully my middle cat, so perhaps that is a source of stress as well, even if he's the one doing the bullying?
Thank you for all of your help!
To explain, yes. We have never lived together previously. We've been dating for roughly a year, and moved in together June 1st.
I'm sorry for not responding sooner-I've been so busy. I called my vet to make an appointment for my youngest to get checked out.
We currently have two litter boxes due to space issues, and also because my other two cats got along famously with a single litter box. I purchased the second specifically for my youngest, but perhaps I should invest in two more.
We are currently making plans and saving up to enclose our rather large patio, so that the cats will be able to go outside and run amok in the sun safely, which will give us more space to add more litter boxes.
My boyfriend is a piercer, and cat hair and dander is really bad for piercings and open wounds in general. While it is not a 100% truly sterile environment, changing clothes before coming to work is probably the best idea for the health of his clients.
He is quite a bit older than me, so perhaps you're right about common methods of cat "training" being seen as acceptable even though they're blatantly incorrect and outdated, but I will not tolerate abuse and I have expressly told him that if he touches my cats in anger again, I'll be leaving.
Both of our names are on the lease, but as far as I'm concerned, even if I had moved into his place, it is now officially a shared space, and thus, I think we should each have an equal opinion.
I'm going to try getting more litter boxes and seeing if the vet turns anything up for my youngest. We do currently use lidded boxes because my oldest sometimes doesn't squat when he wees, so it goes over the side if it's not enclosed (he's a very tall main coon). Perhaps I can even find a bigger box, or use one of those plastic tubs with the lid on it when we can secure the patio for them.
Thanks again for all of your help. The youngest does bully my middle cat, so perhaps that is a source of stress as well, even if he's the one doing the bullying?
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