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    Hungry wedding guests question

    You and your SO (male or female) decide to get married (no, it doesn't matter if it's legal ethereal you are).

    Yes, I know it matters to you - I meant "for the purpose of the question." I'm sorry. I understand you're upset. I'll be more careful...

    Anyways, getting married...

    But, alas, you're pagan, and a great many of your fellow pagans have particular diets.

    You're on a tight budget (you decide what that is), and have to be careful.

    How far will you go to plan your wedding dinner around the eating/drinking habits of yor friends?
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    Potluck. BYOF (bring your own food).

    It's what we did for our handfasting - everybody had something they could eat, everyone ate & everyone left satisfied.

    Of course, it helps when you know people who can actually cook, & not just slouches who bring chips & dip.
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      #3
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      I would do my best to have proper alternatives to accommodate their preferences, but if I absolutely could only pick one meal plan, then it would be one which was more of a buffet-style plan, and people could avoid having to eat things which could provide a health or moral issue.

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        #4
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        Just went through this last year. The place where we got married and had the reception was also doing the food. The request I made of them, due to the time of day was this: It is an elegant seaside lunch buffet. Give me two soups, one of which must be clam chowder, sandwiches of whatever though multiple variety, green salad of whatever kind, two cold salads of whatever kind, cheese and fruit tray, lemonade, tea, soft drinks. I have guests that are gluten free, vegan, lactose intolerant, and seafood allergic. Please make it happen."

        And they did. Not one of the 60 odd guests or wedding party left hungry or disatisfied by food. Nor did it cost me anything extra.

        Whomever you have chosen to handle your catering, if they truly wish to do well and not gouge Yet Another Wedding ... then they will work with you.


        As an aside, we managed to do the whole wedding very inexpensively, relatively speaking ... so its not just fat credit cards that get that kind of treatment.

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          #5
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          Hold the wedding mid-day so no formal dinner provisions are required. No reception and no dinner. Just nibblies - much easier and cheaper to attain for particular diets.

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            #6
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            How far will I go?

            I will go as far as my SO and I can agree on. For a caterer.




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              #7
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              None at all. It's my wedding. It's meat all day every day. F em.

              Also the people going to my wedding would be my friends. Hence they would know exactly who I am. And would bring the wipes for pizza and bbq
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                Originally posted by Medusa View Post
                None at all. It's my wedding. It's meat all day every day. F em.

                Also the people going to my wedding would be my friends. Hence they would know exactly who I am. And would bring the wipes for pizza and bbq
                Damn. I might have to reconsider the catering option. PIZZA!

                And BBQ!!


                Though, both can be catered, these days... I just need an SO that wants the same catering service I do. Or, she needs to find me. LOL




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                "Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth." - Marcus Aurelius

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                  Originally posted by B. de Corbin View Post
                  How far will you go to plan your wedding dinner around the eating/drinking habits of yor friends?
                  Precisely as far as the SO can persuade me and not an inch further. Yes, I know, I'm an evil malevolent bastard but the ceremony is for two people and the rest are there for me to steal soul fragments for new pizzas. Since I'm the designated evil malevolent bastard, accommodations for everyone else will be dependent on a more benevolent party intervening.
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                    #10
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                    I got married in 1981 at a traditional wedding/banquet hall. I have a tiny family and most of his relatives were far away and couldn't come, so we had less than 50 guests. The main dish was chicken, which was OK with everyone attending. There really weren't all these food allergies yet!
                    The only person I'm still in touch with, aside from my aunt, uncle, and 3 cousins, is my maid of honor. That was one of those "friends for life" things that started in college.

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                      Originally posted by B. de Corbin View Post
                      You and your SO (male or female) decide to get married (no, it doesn't matter if it's legal ethereal you are).

                      Yes, I know it matters to you - I meant "for the purpose of the question." I'm sorry. I understand you're upset. I'll be more careful...

                      Anyways, getting married...

                      But, alas, you're pagan, and a great many of your fellow pagans have particular diets.

                      You're on a tight budget (you decide what that is), and have to be careful.

                      How far will you go to plan your wedding dinner around the eating/drinking habits of yor friends?
                      As far as I'm concerned, it's my wedding and my wallet that's paying for it. So you can eat whatever the hell I serve up to you, or you can go hungry.

                      We did exactly what Torey said... held the wedding mid-morning, didn't have a reception and asked everyone to bring a plate of finger food (interstate guests exempted). It was hugely successful and our guests even got excited about who was bringing what dish. If I had to do a sit down dinner reception then I would do what my aunt did... make everyone pay $20 a head if they wanted dinner (in lieu of buying a gift)... then we could afford a two-option menu with vegan possibilities and a multi-tier cake made of cheese.

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                        #12
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                        One of my daughter's had a wedding where the guest list was like a league of nations plus dietary requirements (kosher, halal, vegetarian, coeliac) . We held the reception in a pub (which was much much cheaper) had just a meal (with dessert only if the guest paid for it themselves.) We had a weird moment where the caterers put bacon on the Welsh Rarebit and had to remove it quick (for vegetarians, kosher and halal guests) but otherwise it went really well. Certainly kept within a very small budget. And her dress came from a local charity shop (a donation from a wedding shop that had gone bust - the dress still had the tickets on it.) She had the great experience of trying on the dress, parading around the shop and all the little old ladies there going 'ooh' 'aah' and 'don't she look beeeooootiful!'

                        A really magical wedding.
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                          #13
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                          Went through this a little over a year ago. We spent around $1000 on our wedding (seriously it might have been less) I made spaghetti. I made four varieties. Regular. Vegan. One with no onion. And I can't even remember the other one. All homemade. Cost about $50 maybe $70 I know it was significantly less than $100. Yup. I'll go a long way.
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                            #14
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                            As someone with food allergies, I would of course cater to food allergies. But really, there would be a meat option, and a vegan-gf option. Because that covers most of the bases. If there were other allergies than those, then I would probably make a few special request dishes.

                            That being said, I don't really care for planning a wedding. I want to elope.


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                              #15
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                              We did a three course meal with a salad first course and second course was chicken or beef with the same set up on veg but they chose their protein. We also didn't do a wedding cake we did pies. I like pies better than cake and I had the women in our families make them. It was a way to bring them together and they loved it. We had the reception at a hotel and the joy of doing that is all I had to do is inform them of any dietary restrictions and they catered to those.
                              But when it came to picking our menu we did try to give them a few options however in the end we picked what we wanted
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